Social Comparison!

Social Comparison!

Social comparison is where individuals evaluate themselves by comparing themselves to others.

Have you ever scrolled social media and immediately found it depressing, because it was obvious that everyone’s life was more exciting than yours?

It seems like everyone is surrounded by loving friends, or they’re traveling to fascinating places, or maybe they wear fancy clothes and boy are they happy!

You see this, and jealousy sets in and it can be kind of depressing.

On social media, people portray their best selves, and we don’t even know what goes on behind the scenes, because everyone is so cheery!

We know in our minds that everything is usually not as it seems, but we still see the photos and just know that our lives are not as exciting as we imagine those people’s lives are, right?

We just can’t stop comparing ourselves to others.

Feeling Jealous or Unworthy?Feeling Jealous or Unworthy?

Very Well Mind says that “Social comparison theory suggests that people value their own personal and social worth by assessing how they compare to others”.

We compare things such as our appearance, abilities, achievements, and possessions, etc. and doing so affects our self-esteem, emotions, and behaviors.

Social comparison sometimes can be positive, and inspire us to enhance our skills and capabilities, set higher standards for ourselves, and emulate positive habits.

Social comparison can motivate people to improve, but it can also promote judgmental, biased, and overly competitive or superior attitudes” according to Psychology Today.

It can also set unrealistic standards, especially on social media, because we often only present the best versions of our lives.

Constant exposure to images and accomplishments can distort one’s sense of reality, and lead to feelings of jealousy or unworthiness.

Social comparison can breed unhealthy levels of competition and instead of fostering cooperation, it may encourage individuals to prioritize their own success at the expense of others.

Trent Shelton says: “Comparison is like running a race that you weren’t supposed to enroll in”. Her also says to not allow other people to control your pace of life. They have their race and you have yours. Your only duty is to keep moving forward and take a rest.

Limit Exposure to Social Comparison!

To limit exposure to negative social comparison, here are some things you might want to try:

💥 1. Limit exposure to social media, and and unrealistic portrayals of success.
🌟 2. Write in a journal and focus on gratitude and appreciating your own accomplishments.
💥 3. Set realistic goals that are achievable based on your own values.
🌟 4. Recognize that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses and treat yourself with the same understanding, you would a friend.
💥 5. Understand other’s perspectives and support them in their journeys, without feeling threatened by their success.
🌟 6. Shift the focus from receiving external validation to working toward personal growth and becoming the best version of yourself.
💥 7. Surround yourself with a supportive network of people who encourage you, rather than judge.

By implementing these types of strategies, we minimize the negative impact of social comparison and cultivate a more positive mindset.

As John Maxwell famously once said “The only one you should compare yourself to is you. Your mission is to become better today than you were yesterday.

Which one do you do, compare yourself to others or compare yourself to you?


TOPIC: Social Comparison!


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